Helping a Person Experiencing Partner Abuse

Helping a Person Experiencing Partner Abuse

SAFETY IS THE FIRST PRIORITY

  • If she/he has been physically abused, offer to accompany her/him to the doctor’s
  • Help her/him to find a safe place to stay, call Ganǫhkwásra` at 519-445-3424

DO:

  • Let her/him know that you believe in them
  • Listen and support their feelings without judging
  • Let them know you care and that you are willing to help

GIVE CLEAR MESSAGES THAT:

  • They did not cause the abuse
  • They cannot change their partner’s behaviour
  • Apologies and promises will not end the violence
  • Abuse is not a loss of control, it is a means of control
  • They are not alone or crazy
  • Violence is never ok
  • Talk about their options and help them to plan for their safety and their children’s
  • Give them time and space to make their own decisions
  • Give them a list of community resources that support and work with abused women, men, youth and children – Ganǫhkwásra` 445-4324
  • Respect their need for confidentiality

An abused person needs support and encouragement in order to make choices that are right for them. However, there are some forms of advice that are detrimental and even dangerous for them to hear.

DON’T:

  • Tell them what to do, when to leave or not to leave
  • Tell them to go back to a situation and try a little harder
  • Rescue them by trying to find quick solutions
  • Suggest they try and talk to their partner to straighten things out
  • Tell them they should stay for the sake of their children
  • Give up on her/him if the decisions they make are not the same as the ones you might make

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

  • Never confront an abusive person, the situation may become worse

Remember to look after your own physical and emotional well-being

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